Is There Romance After Kids

Something that most couples donít take into consideration when deciding to have a baby is just how much their life together is going to change once that baby is born and a huge part of their lives. There will be no more spur of the moment weekend getaways or just deciding to eat dinner at a restaurant. Everything you do must be coordinated around whether or not youíve got a babysitter or if the baby can go with you.

Your freedom is almost non-existent. In fact, itís this issue that causes the most problems between you and your partner once you become parents. The exception to that is if youíve got a couple of reliable babysitters or if youíve got enough money to pay a live-in nanny to be on call 24/7. Thatís not always the best solution because most parents want to take care of their babies independently. So now youíre back to having no freedom.

Babies are also notorious for regularly interrupting those special romantic moments between you and your partner. They may not come around as often as before because the baby needs lot of care and attention. So when the two of you are finally able to fall into bed together, youíre both so exhausted that sex is the last thing on either of your minds. Between all of the low energy and no time together, you both probably start wondering if the romance has left your relationship forever.

Before you start to give up on ever having one of those special moments with your man again, there are ways that you can keep the romance in your relationship in spite of the fact that you now have a baby to take care of. Theyíre all things that you need to get in place, however, before the baby arrives. Youíre going to have enough going on with caring for a newborn and there wonít be time to organize anything.

To begin with, if you live near either or both of your parents, thatís usually a great thing. Most grandparents are thrilled to babysit anytime you want them to. In fact, they usually beg to be allowed to babysit. If thatís your case, let them! They wouldnít volunteer if they didnít want to. Keep that in mind. Those built-in babysitters will be lifesavers.

If you donít live around your parents or other doting relatives, youíll have to take another direction. Find reliable and responsible babysitters before the baby arrives. Interview several and be sure to check all references. Sometimes youíll have some great friends that you can trust to care for your child, so definitely put them on the list. Itís always a better idea to line up several babysitters so that if you run into problems, thereís always another one on the list to call.

Youíre going to love your baby more than youíve ever loved anyone or anything in your life. That may be the first shock youíll experience. You may even be so enthralled with your child that you canít bear being away from him. Keep in mind, though, that in order to be a good parent, you need to be allowed to be a real person, too. That includes being romantic.

More Articles

Spice Up Your Marriage With Phone Sex
... about how it feels and what it s doing for you. While phone sex is really effective, you can also add to the experience a bit more by using computers and webcams. This can really be hot because you ll get to watch each other while you re talking dirty. It becomes a naughty version of Show and Tell if you happen to have some toys on ...  (more >>)

Steps To A Happier Healthier Relationship
... more productive, or even change careers. There are so many different things that you can promise you ll do to improve your quality of life. If you re in a relationship, you may want to put making that relationship more open and honest at the top of your list. Many couples tend to just let their relationships take care of themselves ...  (more >>)

Dating With Children
... a situation. But what if you don t have family nearby that can help or they just aren't able to help you out at that specific time? If you can't get a babysitter and your family can't watch them for you, then you only have one option left. You have to figure out a date that you can include your children on and make sure that the person ...  (more >>)

Join Our Newsletter!